The fact is we spend a tiny amount of our time on what we really should be doing, if we do at all. “What you have to do and the way you have to do it is incredibly simple. Whether you are willing to do it, that’s another matter.” Says Peter Drucker.
Unconsciously we escape from this activity, fearing a life that might be too extraordinary and successful. We seek but also fear attention. Standing out is dangerous. Most of the time, we just want to be normal. Following the herd seems the safest. Since we don’t know better, we assume the crowd (the majority) does. This is a very questionable assumption, since we all see how the majority of lives turn out.
We are not used to listening to our own command. This is not the way we were brought up. We are used to responding to external requirements: family, school, job, friends, government, community. Most people can not learn unless they are in school, can not live unless they tie themselves to overwhelming commitments. The exercise of free will is greatly thwarted among humans, partly due to the collective demand of survival in the past.
The challenge has changed. Free time, or leisure, has become available to many. Most people can not deal with it. They do their best to escape from freedom, to kill free time. Having kids, watching TV, traveling, taking on another job, going back to school, reading newspapers and magazines, getting together with friends. All can be meaningful if you do it based on the awareness of how it is related to your pursuit. On the other hand, all can be just a mindless easy way out.
It is the ultimate joy, and the ultimate scare: to live your own life, to be with nobody but yourself.